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SelfMentoring


Reward for selfishness is loneliness Reward for arrogance is foolishness Reward for greed is emptiness


We live in an era in which grabbing some form of attention, be it positive or negative. And more often than not the people that are seen the most are rather unsavoury. Yet despite their sometimes utterly henious traits, they gain worryingly larrge following which easily ignores all their faults. But what’s their end-game? What do they want? They want “more”; more people in their cult, fuel for their egos, more things to demonstrate their self-perceived superiority. But what these people don’t realise or willingly ignore is the hidden cost. They feel exceptional, invincible. Until the inevitable comes and then what? Who will help you?

Reward for selfishness is loneliness

Who will help someone who thinks only about themselves? Why would anyone risk their well-being for someone who doesn’t care?

Reward for arrogance is foolishness

Why should you need help if you’re so great? How come you’re not capable at delivering your promises despite your miraculous claims?

Reward for greed is emptiness

Who are you trying to impress with all this stuff? What do you have to offer as a person? Who are you?

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Something more positive this time around after the rather heavy stuff. We often stumble upon various motivational quotes and posts, lifting up the positive vibes and stuff like that. While I wouldn’t necessarily call them a form of toxic positivity since they don’t “push” that mindset down your throat, they’re not really effective either. Mainly because they’re just kind of placed in without a larger context which makes them fall flat. So, to not do that, I’m only going to pick two rather short quotes from my personal list and focus on these.


Be curious, not judgemental.


Don’t punish. Motivate.


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We sadly live in a time of a lot of unnecessary conflicts. And because we like to stand on the “right side of history”, we tend to take sides with which we sympathise with. But that choice may not be as straight-forward. And we quickly forget that there are two basic rules, at least by my book, which should be applied at the same time.

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I can already see you going: “What in the Jesus and all his carpenter friends is that title?” Well, I felt “poetic”. And it’s quite poignant when you get into what I’m about to say in this chapter, this time aimed at “public idols” and their “senseless adoration”.


Public figures are not to be worshipped and/or trusted. They’re to be kept on a tight leash and made sure they do their job right. Remember, you gave them this job so you’re their boss. Not the other way around.


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Recent visits to social circles (yes, I’m an idiot for inflicting this damage to myself) have been in the light of witnessing certain people and their deranged thoughts. I won’t name but I believe everyone can guess who’s on my mind. And as my already messed up blood pressure was going even more haywire I couldn’t help but scream inside my head this question: “WHY ARE YOU GIVING THAT DEGENERATE THE ATTENTION???!!!” I was and still am competely baffled by the fact that the same people who avoid certain spaces have no problem reposting the stupidity of whoever they’re avoiding just to have this dopamine rush of “owned the fucker”. Well, strap in folks for you’re probably about to discover your own stupidity.

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I wasn’t expecting to jump into this one so early but an article circulating social spaces gave me, let’s say, spiteful energy >:3 The article in question is an opinion piece and apparently is about, wait for it, kid-dults. First, what the fuck is that word? Second, the author must be one hell of a misrable person. I’ll admit I haven’t delved into the article but the title itself is repulsive enough. Doesn’t help that the it’s also denoted by “RIP ADULTHOOD”. Well, dear author of the article and anyone who this in a similar fashion, allow me for a quote (most likely not mine originally but it’s the message that’s important):


Never abandon your inner child. For doing so is like killing your soul.


Have I got your attention? Am I hearing your “mature” comments? Am I seeing your nose pointing upwards in self-fueled pride? Good. Now grab your favourite beverage and or a snack. And make sure it’s some comfort food because you’re going to need it >:3

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Time to ruffle some feaethers again. And I know I will because I already managed that with this one:


Those who claim to bring freedom will be the ones who will restrict it the most.


We’ve been hearing this song quite a lot recently, especially during the pandemic years where we really had to have a chunk of our freedoms temporarily taken away or at least have it heavily checked in an interest of public safety. How well that worked and how well or badly it has been handled will be a debate for decades to come and I highly doubt everyone agreed with everything that was done but that’s not what I’m trying to focus on. My intention with this “lesson” (can I even call it lessons?) is to focus on these various “freedom fighters”, shouting and screaming “THEY’RE CONTROLLING YOU!” whenever a regulation come into play or some rights are adjusted, often benefiting common folks. Welp, let’s strap in for the ride.

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Alright, let’s start this series and we’re going in with quite a steep one:


If someone sells you an easy solution to a complex issue, they either don’t know what they’re talking about or they’re trying to screw you over.


You see this all around yourself: “Do these X simple steps to change your life forever!” or “You can be happier with this one easy trick!” All these adverts, carpet-bombing your brain. We often scoff them away, thinking “What a load of horseshit!” and move on with our lives. But even then there’s that little worm in your head saying “What if? What if they’re right and it’s really this easy?” Well, my dear reader, let’s find out whether it really is that easy.

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Oh dear, this might be my demise but hey, gotta be brave. Like someone wise said, bravery is being terrified and doing the thing anyway (I’ll get to this one some time later). I’m not the most experienced in this loopy world. Hell, I’m not even the “wise elder” that some would require me to be. But even then, I managed to collect some experiences, see things, read and listen to various people and some of the thoughts stuck to my mind. And over time, these thoughts started forming a sort of my personal code which I live by.

Now you’re probably asking “Why put it in the wild?” Because it might resonate with someone. It might provide some food for thought for you, my dear reader. It may shock you on some occasions.

So, if you’re willing to join in on the journey into my brain, pick a comfy spot, grab your favourite snack and something to drink and dive into the series. I’ll be linking them in this post so you don’t have to scour to around to find all the pieces for there will be quiet a lot of them.

I. My Rather Simple Tool Against Grifting II. Promises Of Freedom Are Not For You III. Never Forget What It Is Like To Be A Kid IV. Don’t Feed The Troll Or Someone With A Massive Ego V. Looking At The World Through Someone's Public Arsehole Sure Makes It Look Like Shit. So ... Don't VI. Taking Sides In Conflicts Has Some Rules. And They All Have To Apply Strictly VII. Positive Mindset Bears Fruit VIII. Insatiable Selfish Desire For More Leads To Isolation. But It Can Be Turned Around. IX. If You Don't Feel Free When You Have No Reason To, Stop Oppressing Yourself X. Absolute Freedom Does Not Exist XI. One Cannot Live In Fear. And Spreading It Won’t Take Yours Away XII. Growth Is Great But Chasing It For The Sake Of Growth Is Draining XIII. Forgiveness As An Act Of (Self-)Compassion XIV. Accountability is a tool of recovery, not abuse XV. “This cannot happen here/to me” is a potentially fatal lie XVI. How can XYZ be legal? XVII. The Only Person To Compare To Is Yourself XVIII. Never Reject Your Emotions

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